when we are upset, disappointed, frustrated or angry, it is difficult to communicate lovingly. when negative emotions come up, we tend momentarily to lose our loving feelings of trust, care, understanding, acceptance, appreciation and respect. at such times, even with the best intentions, our talk turns into fighting. in the heat of the moment, we do not remember how to communicate in a way that works for our partner or for us.
at times like these, women unknowingly tend to blame men and make them feel guilty for their actions. instead of remembering that her partner is doing the best he can, a woman could assume the worst and sound critical and resentful. when she feels a surge of negative feelings, it is especially difficult for a woman to speak in a trusting, acceptance and appreciating way. she does not realise hw negative and hurtful her attitude is to her partner.
however, when men become upset, they tend to become judgemental of women and their feelings. instead of remembering that his partner is vulnerable and sensitive, a man may forget her needs and sound mean and uncaring. when he feels a surge of negative feelings, it is especially difficult for him to speak in a caring, understanding and respectful way. he doesn't realise how hurtful his negative attitude is to her.
after reading this, i realise that its true haha. trying to work on it haha. i mean the uncaring part. but there's a way to solve this problem.
1. find a third party to help
2. write a letter to convince him/her.
3. let the both of u cooldown first.
i think 3 is enough haha.
and tomorrow there's hadith test. haiz. leceh uh.
satu bende pn blom hafal. haiz.
lazy lazy and lazy haha.
going to study soon. haha.
as if i would. lol.
k nvm, ill try. bye bye.
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more than words
by frankie j
saying i love you
is not the words i want to hear from you
its not that i want you not to say
but if you only knew
how easy it would be to show me how you feel
more than words
is all you have to do to make it real
then you wouldn't have to say
that you love me, yeah
cause i'd already know.
what would you do (what would you do)
if my heart was torn in two?
more than words to show you feel
that your love for me is real
what would you say
if i took those words away
then you couldn't make things new
just by saying i love you
(just saying i love you, saying i love you)
more than words
(just saying i love you, saying i love you)
now that i've tried to (now that i've tried to)
talk to you and make you understand
all you have to do is
close your eyes and just reach out your hand
and touch me
hold me close don't ever let me go
more than words
is all i ever needed you to show
then you wouldn't have to say
that you love me, yeah
cause i'd already know
(just saying i love you, saying i love you)
more than words
N O T H I N G
dancing to the beat :D
im craving for some things. alot. haha
im craving for some things. alot. haha
P R O F I L E
nazirul and mubin :D
nazirul loves sweets and cookie.
and and vanilla milkshake (:
the only son of abdul moen.
a talking machine haha.
he can talk the whole day without exhausting himself.
k ni bedek xD
has been breathing for the past sixteen years.
nazirul dislikes hypocrites. S E R I O U S L Y!
not to forget pretenders. i think its the same. haha.
currently studying in madrasah aljunied
and is in sec 4.
aspired to be a policeman and a teacher and a motivator and
I WANT IT
this should be useful
basically just famous amos,
double choc frappe, vanilla milkshake,
t-shirt, shirt
,
not forgetting my dreams (:
going to middle-east,
and live life to the fullest wee~!
C H A T B O X
cookiemonster likes famous amos
how to communicate difficult feelings
8:20 PM - Thursday, August 13, 2009
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